Daily Prompt: Not for Thee
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received that you wouldn’t give to anyone else? Why don’t you think it would apply to others?
Hummm, today’s Daily Prompt has me completely stumped. I have plenty of bad advice that I would not share with anyone else but cannot think of one piece of good advice that I would keep from others. I believe all good advice is meant to be shared, not kept from others. Since I cannot come up with a good piece of advice I would not share, I am going to layout a few suggestions for offering advice to others.
Never give advice that you, yourself, have no intentions of ever taking. I have crossed paths with so many people in my life, who are happy to tell me how to live my life and never apply the exact advice they gave me to their own life. Do not be a hypocrite. If you are going to hand out advice, plan on following your own words, otherwise do not share them with others. Because, in my opinion, it would seem that your advice is worthless or you would follow it yourself.
Do not give advice to someone who is not seeking it. Chances are you are going to offend the person or they may humor you by listening but if someone is not asking for your help, they probably do not want it. Not only are you wasting your own time but it makes others irritated at you because you are a know-it-all and think you know everything. Not everyone wants your advice.
Only give advice when asked for. Do not include advice on subject matters not asked about. You might be infringing on sensitive territory or the person just does not want you in that part of their life. Just because you see something you consider an issue, does not mean the other person does or maybe they do but are not ready to work with it yet. Stick to the subject asked about.
Be polite and considerate when giving out advice. After all, you do not want the other person closing up or learning not to trust you because you barged right in with your advice and tried to cram it down the other person’s throat. Just say your piece and leave it alone. It is up to the other person to consider it and what they want to do with your advice. They do not have to take it.
Always remember your circumstances and opinions color your advice. It may not apply to the other person. Do not be offended if the person does not take your advice. Once again, they do not have to take it. There is no law saying they must accept your advice.